I can’t believe it

I want to know the orquesta of the tanda before I leave my chair in a milonga.  I’m as selective about the music as partners.  I rely on the milongueros viejos for help.

Last night at the milonga…

Me:  Antonio (seated to my right), what orquesta is this?  Canaro?

Antonio: I don’t know.

Me:  Hugo (seated to my left), what orquesta is this?

Hugo: I don’t know.

Me:  I know, it’s Donato!

Then the DJ was passing by on his way outside to smoke.

Me:  Brian, is it Donato?

Brian,  Yes.

Me:  Hugo, it’s Donato.  Antonio, it’s Donato.



2 Responses to “I can’t believe it”

  1. Felicity Says:

    I loved the way they do things in the milongas in Buenos Aires, seating people, various kinds of seating options, good milonga conditions. My experience was that not all but many guys knew the orchestra, the track and the words. One of those many nice things was how, if I asked a guy the name of a track and he didn’t know it, invariably he went later to find out from friends or the DJ and then found me to tell me. It was a kind of old fashioned courtesy most guys I partnered and asked seemed to have. I think they saw it as a service for women. Seeing those things as opportunities for small services to women is peculiar in my experience to those milongas but maybe more generally it’s a Latin thing. There are guys like that in Europe. One of them ran me to the station tonight when I was going to miss my train; but the difference in Buenos Aires was that it seemed to be a cultural thing in that so many men saw it as natural to find this thing out for a woman.

    I noticed it also in how invariably guys stood aside to let women pass and of course in how they all escorted women from the floor. These last two happen in some European milongas too but almost self-consciously, like the reintroduction of a now infrequent courtesy.

    Similar small courtesies I see less at milongas but occasionally in general society are a guy helping seat a woman (he knows) at a table, helping her with a jacket, standing up when she joins a group or taking the outside of the pavement. Guys who do all these now are fairly rare but they used to be much more common. I know some women think these things unnecessary or even insulting I dance both roles and I still don’t.

  2. jantango Says:

    Gentlemanly behavior never goes out of style. Women who find it unnecessary or insulting are a minority. Leaving me in the center of the dance floor gets a man on the list “never dance with him again.”

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