Desperate Milongueras

One of my favorite American television series was Desperate Housewives.  I no longer watch television, however, I see new episodes each week of Desperate Milongueras. 

They are the ones doing all the neck stretching combined with aggressive nodding for fear of sitting out a tanda.

They are the ones who stand immediately and enter the dance floor long before the man has left his chair.

They are the ones leaning forward in their chairs, poised like racehorses at the gate.

They are the ones scanning the room while changing their shoes at the table.  They don’t lose precious time changing shoes in the ladies’ room.

They are the ones who can’t wait for the man to arrive near their table, so they save time by crossing the floor to meet him.

And the most desperate milonguera of all is bold enough to approach a man’s table with a prepared speech guaranteed to get him on his feet in five seconds.

I ask, where is the subtlety?  Where is the private nonverbal agreement between two for a few minutes of intimate communication?

Feel free to share your favorite episodes of Desperate Milongueras.

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5 Responses to “Desperate Milongueras”

  1. Janet Rieck Says:

    Where is the respect for male authority where they actually choose who they dance with…not the other way around? Where is the respect for women when the men are now asking them to pay them to dance with them? Where is the respect for couples when women pursue their partners like they are single men to pick from? Where is the respect for dancers when the organizers pay them to dance with lesser dancers and tell them who to dance with? Where is the self respect when women of a certain age feel they have to look and dress like 20 year olds? My answer is let the men ask you to dance, dress like a lady, and act like one and never pay anyone to dance with you. Works for me.

  2. Chris Says:

    Janis wrote: “They are the ones who can’t wait for the man to arrive near their table, so they save time by crossing the floor to meet him.

    We get that a lot in the UK, too.

    But for some, I think there’s a different reason. It’s her chance to do the showy little walk across the floor that she’s learned from the demonstrations given by her dance instructors.

    The same can apply at the end of the tanda. She really doesn’t welcome the guy taking her back to her table – it loses her an advertising opportunity.

    This is different kind of girl from the one who waits at her table until the guy arrives, then stays with him the whole time until they return to that starting point, and part. What comes naturally is advertising enough.

  3. jantango Says:

    All the tango exhibitions done at milongas are effecting the social codes and behavior at milongas for the worse.

    And by the way, these scenes of desperation in the post are not committed by seasoned milongueras who know how to conduct themselves at a milonga.

  4. perri iezzoni Says:

    Like:-)

  5. Michael Says:

    I was at a practica where a woman interrupted my conversation with another woman and said she wanted to dance with me.

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